Relationship - Marriage
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One of the most judged and watched things in Christian living I swear! You have a HUGE target on your backs getting shot at from every angle and sometimes, trust me, it is really hard to keep hanging on to the Lord and stand strong when you are seriously injured!
So people judge you when you're "courting/dating" because....oooooooh you're talking for hours on the phone while living in separate states. You're judged by some when you get engaged if you hold hands or hug or sit with your arm around one another or kiss their cheek (heaven forbid!!!!). Finally the wedding.....oh boy. You have the issue with the dress you pick out for yourself. The dresses for the bridesmaids are of course an issue so you do your best to meet in the middle of what you dream of and what some will ONLY wear. Then OH MY GOODNESS you are doing a father daughter dance and a bride groom dance! You are downright frowned on by some and even cut down verbally. Music at the wedding....we won't even go there.
.....deep breath....
So honeymoon. Some people are appalled at your choice of vacationing spot with your new love. Do not dare show some people pictures either! A couple weeks after the wedding e-mails from some preaching to you about how "we are to be fruitful and multiply and they hope we aren't doing anything to stop from having children"! (Well, excuse me.) Then others declare to me how dare I go out from under my husbands authority by looking for work outside the home!!! Three months after the wedding you tell you are expecting! Then you get people going, "Heavens, that was way too fast and they are way to young! They should have waiting a little longer." What! Or you just get these endless and heart exhausting jokes thrown at you about how you are really getting with it and you are going to way outpass so and so if you keep this up and well I guess this is the start of your dozens to come. ANNOYING FOLKS! After you pick names for your coming blessing(s) you are then ridiculed or given advice to about those names in ways you never would think possible! Spelling is bad, name is feminine, name is too cutsie, names are too uniform...... Talk about ruining a child's name for their once VERY excited parents!!!!
After all, they say, we ARE just youngsters and don't REALLY know what we are doing, right? How can we be possible be entrusted by God with these two little boys and truly be responsible enough for them or prepare properly for them, right?
